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China Daily via Reuters
A 22-year-old woman in a wedding gown is grabbed by Guo Zhongfan, a local community officer, as she attempts to kill herself by jumping out of a seven-story residential building in Changchun, Jilin province, China on May 17. According to local media, the woman tried to commit suicide after her boyfriend of four years broke up with her, just as they were making plans to get married. The woman did not sustain any injuries during the incident.
Dressed in her wedding gown, a college student identified only as Miss Li climbed out on the window ledge of the building in Changchun city in northeast China.
According to local TV, the 22-year-old sobbed and swung her legs out the window for about an hour before police officers arrived.
Li said she could not live with the fact her fiancé had left her and married another woman just days before their wedding, local TV said.
China Daily via Reuters
The woman sits on a windowsill before attempting to jump.
Reuters reported that the woman lived on the fourth floor of the building but made her way to another apartment upstairs.
As dozens of people looked on, authorities arrived at the seventh-floor dwelling determined to prevent Li from taking her own life.
Television footage showed a local official named Guo Zhongfan holding Li by her neck and arms as she dangled above the street.
China Daily via Reuters
From left: Guo Zhongfan grabs hold of the woman; other people assist from below; the woman is pulled inside the building.
Changchun Television said she pushed herself off the ledge before she was grabbed by Guo. A man in the apartment below assisted in the rescue by reaching out the window and pushing Li’s feet up.
The crowd gathered below applauded Guo after the woman was pulled back inside.
"I did what anyone would have done," Guo told reporters.
Li was later taken to hospital.
A community officer pulled a 22-year-old woman to safety after she threatened to jump out of a building in China because her boyfriend married another woman. TODAY.com's Dara Brown reports.
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May God give her comfort and bless her for all her days. I pray that she rises above this to live a very very happy life. Please God soothe her soul.
I second that motion. I can only imagine her pain.
I agree with the results you desire - I would just want a more realistic means to them than doing nothing except hoping they happen. Nothing fails like prayer.
Prayer works. I'm here today because of it.
Ooo, good job, Arcturus! You found a theist on the internet! You hurried and got that quick jab in there to let the world know that there are non-theists who don't believe in that sort of rubbish!
Nice work! You can go about your day knowing that you did the planet a favor for giving those silly theists on the internet a righteous thump on the head!
((Barf.))
@Observer
You just did the exact same thing you describe Arcturus as doing. Take the high road next time.
I think Lynn needs some good Kochis in her life instead of playing pretend.
We can serve up a "trinity" for her, no problem
God answers all prayers. Sometimes the answer is no.
Beautiful young woman - I hope she can work out her emotional problems and find happiness.
Ah, how I love when people attack someone just for wishing happiness on someone else. What difference does it make if you use the word "pray" or "hope"? Considering they literally mean the same thing. Of course, if you don't actually spend any time reading non-internet things, you'd never learn that...
Thank you Lynn for doing something so many have forgotten how to do, and hoping for the happiness of someone you don't know, and likely will never know. I pray, and literally pray, you (as well as the unhappy folk posting mean things here) are very, very, very happy one day (assuming you are only very, very happy today).
What an @!$%#, doing that to her right before their wedding. I'm glad she's ok.
Yeah, Sifu, I feel real sorry for him. (sarcasm) He got what he wanted. There is no justification in the world for doing what he did. Not only did he break off the engagement with his long time girlfriend to whom he had made certain promises, but he was clearly being unfaithful to her for some length of time to have the option of turning around and marrying someone else so danged quickly. The guy's a jerk. Period. I do feel just a little sorry for the girl he did marry -- unless she is as much of a scum as he is, which is possible, but she may just be a little stupid. His new bride is not in for a happy life, either way. Any guy who can do that to one girl is perfectly capable of doing it to another.
Sifu wrote-we don't know if this girl is NOT the "other woman"...for all we know, she was his longtime mistress who believed he'd leave his primary relationship for her and was just upset that he backed out....
Reading comprehension is lacking here. The article states" According to local media, the woman tried to commit suicide after her boyfriend of four years broke up with her, just as they were making plans to get married.".
If wedding plans were not being made, why would she have a gown?
Chinese culture is all about saving face, and they consider suicide the way out. They do not consider suicide to keep from being shamed to be morally wrong
I think it's pretty evident why he didn't marry her....she's nuts. And I agree with sifu...she very easily could have been the delusional other woman, thinking that he would never go through with his marriage to his real fiance. As sifu said..there ARE women out there who "date" married/engaged men and call themselves the "girlfriend". There are two sides to every story.
sparklystar is yet another dweeeeeeb. You talk utter nonsense, and obviously have mental issues yourself. ;)
He probably broke up with her because she was such a drama queen.
Maybe he broke up with her right before the wedding because he was a jerk...oh hey, wait a minute...I don't know the whole story and neither do you....
In China one of the worst things possible is to be shamed; Something you probably have no concept of.
Sifu... so glad you're an authority on suicide! Too bad you seem to relish your moral superiority and certainty. I don't know if you've looked around lately, but this world has pain 10 times over for those willing to open their eyes and see it. Most of us get by by closing our eyes and ignoring it. I know this is likely a foreign word for you, but you might try feeling some empathy. As far as your sexist remarks, I won't even dignify them with a response.
So true woodsmiss - their culture is so different from ours - shame is one of the worst things for them - she probably felt she had no other choice than to kill herself. (I'm not saying its right at all, but their culture and thinking is very different.) And everyone is right to say that we do not know the circumstances.
This is the last response I will give to Sifu. You are a sad, sad, little individual. I know you don't think so. I know you are content and self satisfied inside your little bubble. I know my words do not and will not ever mean anything to you. But that does not change the fact that you are one sad, bitter, heartless little person. But, hey, on the bright side -- if we all shared your warped sense of self and the world this planet would be a lot better off -- no pollution and such -- because the human species would have died out a long time ago.
Sifu - it's people like you that have no empathy for another's pain. No one is 'crying' over her dilemma, we are all trying to understand why someone could be so hopeless to take these kinds of actions. All you want to do is tell everyone to 'grow a pair' and just look the other way. How callous and inhuman. Human beings suffer all over the world - this is just a case that the media caught on film. Because you choose to live in your 'bubble' and not let anything outside of your selfish realm affect you, I truly feel sorry for you. Not to put words in your mouth, but basically you're saying, "Hey, if it doesn't affect ME (because I'm so narcissistic and callous) then I'm not going to give a damn." What a tragic place the world would be if there were more selfish and egocentric people like you in it.
Sifu don't talk about yourself that way!Disease, why should be an expert on that.
Sifu, I think the word people are searching for to describe you is psycopath. You actually believe that you are more valuable and your feelings are more important than others.
I have never taken a test and NOT been measured to be in the 99th percentile overall....I AM measurably better than most people, objectively speaking....the whole "all people are equal" only relates to innate human value, not their capabilities. Most of you happen to be stupid but your parents liked to coddle you and tell you how you were "special"...you got a gold star and a blue ribbon for coming in 1,475th...you're not special...we are all equally insignificant but I am capable of FAR more...don't really care how you feel about it...doesn't really matter...
LOL hahahaha, sifu you make me laugh....... I agree, too many dumb people in this world. Myself and a couple of friends had this discussion of how the kids these days are soft, and that is the world we are waiting for. A world full of pansies.. TV and video games, have made kids these days physically, mentally, and emotionally soft.
About the article, no empathy here, she made a choice to be with this jerk-off. Its karma that she got what she got. There are literally millions of decent men in china and she chooses a jerk-off. Just like her choices so goes her life. Face and honor had nothing to do with this chick's decision. She was being selfish and there is no honor in that.
Well if you don't care, and it doesn't really matter. Neither do we,about you that is.
You hit the nail on the head here woodsmiss. There is no shame left in America. If the courts would go back to humiliation punishment, we might find more people feeling shame. But I am not holding my breath.
You may be in your 99th percentile Sifu, but the measure of a person is in their deeds. In your original reply to me you mentioned how insignificant we all are... so true. Yet in helping your neighbors you better everyone's lives. Your analogy of combat is short-sighted and wrong as well. Instead of supporting your arguement the analogy supports a community ethos rather than the individual. You see yourself as the person who comes through, unharmed because you were better/smarter/quicker. But combat is random, it does not discriminate and it is just as likely that it would be you wounded and needing help. Who then, would lend you a hand? Could I set aside my dislike of you and your views to save your life. Likely, I am not that good of a person.
Sifu - then why are you wasting so much time dumbing yourself down with your ignorant posts. Aren't the "special" and "gifted" supposed to excel and use their talent for greater things? ...undoubetdly over-commenting on interent blogs does not qualify for any type of achievement.
I really struggle to believe that you are better than most - perhaps you can change your handle to something more apropo..... maybe.... STFU ?
Sifu-
Banned for a year.
Come back when you are an adult.
Being intelligent doesn't make you a "better person", sifu. Ted Bundy had a high IQ, too, and look how he turned out. The same is true for many sociopaths, which is exactly what you appear to be. Don't be surprised if you, or someone in your inner circle (I won't say "someone that you love, as you are obviously incapable of loving anyone but yourself), has something catastrophic happen and no one else feels like providing any aid or sympathy.
A Word Of Advice From... ME! Don't let a man make you crazy. They are not, and never will be, worth it. If he married someone else that fast, its about the sex, and, well, he's JUST not that into you. I bet she will find some love with someone REAL soon.
Depression can be a Mutha...
And you know all this how? Appears to me, she's already crazy. He made the right call. HE didn't make her crazy, she took that decision all by herself.
Logic Fail!
Mo, what you and Sifu, above, are not comprehending from your reading is that he didn't just leave this girl, he married someone else. Unless it seems natural to you both that he would marry the first girl he came across, the casual observer is left to conclude that he had something going on the side. That means he strung this girl along for 4 years instead of being up front and breaking it off when he met the other girl. From there, we must further conclude the 'groom' is a dishonorable, cowardly, dickweed.
Should the girl have been suicidal? No. But nobody here knows what she's been through, so it's inappropriate to be judgemental.
I will say, if I was the father of the girl he did marry -- well, let's just say we would be having a very candid discussion of my expectations for the well being of my own daughter. This previous statment is my diplomatic way of expressing my thoughts.
Bigger, she could just as easily been the "something going on thse side". While I agree with you that the groom is a dishonorabel, cowardly, dickweed, she might be the delusional other woman.
Well, Lemme just say this... I know what men can do to a woman (I married a man that I thought was the love of my life, only to find out that he had MANY women on the side, and I found all of this out AFTER he died.) Don't let someone tell you that having alot of sex means the relationship is good, thats for sure. Some men are born unfaithful. They are not worth the insanity of women. Now, I have a REAL man. No probs. No crazy. NO OTHER WOMEN ISSUES.
Pulling random theories out of your behinds to justify hateful comments targeting a jilted bride isn't clever, it's sick. A person in emotional crisis shouldn't be entertainment. May God have more mercy on you than you show to others.
Wait till he dies.
lab, if they shouldn't be entertainment, what the hell are YOU doing here being entertained???? And that mercy thingy involving God...right back at ya for pointing fingers at others for pointing fingers. Shame on you! pot/kettle thingy going on here.
Hear Hear, sparklystar! And, Lab, don't criticize me, as I have lived through this kind of stuff. So, I am actually giving relevant advice. Shame on you!
Schmuck and Psycho... thank goodness...now the gene pool has been spared! Seriously, depression is not a laughing matter and I hope she gets all the appropriate help she needs. And for the former fiance... I hope he is blessed with 50 years of marriage to a raging @&^%#!
Poor thing...no one is worth committing suicide for....I hope she is ok...good for the guys that saved her.
Pull her in and get her some help. Grab him (the fiance) and throw him out the window.
You can't lose anything that is really 'yours'.
I had to learn that the hard way.
No matter what it looks like, or how you felt, if they don't stick around. It wasn't meant to be and there is nothing you can do to change that.
I wish I could vote this comment twice. So very true.
This guy married another girl 3 days before he was set to marry this girl. Chances are he didn't start dating the other woman 3 days before his wedding. If he had gone through with the wedding, he would have cheated on his wife. Who wants to be married to a guy like that? He's certainly not worth dying over.
Dont worry deary, my girlfriend of 10 years went with another guy and had a kid with him, while with me, she lived 3 hours away. glad i didnt catch anything bad from her.
now she's homeless.
he is married with kids and just had another kid with his wife!!
some people just dont get it!
Yes, payback, "what comes around goes around".He was not a good person. He will get his in the end and he will be the one to suffer. Poor girl, I hope she gets the help she needs and has a truly happy life with a respectable, good hearted man. There are good men out there, just because this one was a jerk, doesn't mean all men are like that.
Sloppyjoes-
I realize that it hurts enormously to be betrayed like that. Still, you sound happy that someone you once loved is now homeless. That's incredibly sad for her and her child. Maybe she realizes the mistake she made? Maybe she misses you more then you know, and regrets what she did to you....for the right reasons....not becasue she is homeless. Everyone makes mistakes, learns and regrets in their life. Forgiveness is a virtue, a blessing to both parties, and will take all weight from your shoulders if you let it.
Suicide drama, like an elaborate funeral, is for the living not the dead. Whereas the elaborate funeral is the last act of the dead to impress upon the living, dramatic suicide is the final act to inflict maximum guilt upon the intended recipient. In both cases, the perpetrators over estimate their importance and impact to the world. Regardless the drama originates from foolish ego or pride, spectators to these theatrics find them merely entertainment with little lasting effect.
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She's super hot. I'd marry her right now. And *not* leave her at the altar. Luckily I just broke up with someone else.
Looks like typical shoddy Chinese construction by the way. Build it fast, build it cheap.
You can say that again.
Looks like typical shoddy Chinese construction by the way. Build it fast, build it cheap.
Yeah I noticed that as well. They need some major masonry work around those window frames. Also, glad they saved her. She's beautiful and will now have thousands of Chinese men (and a few American men I'm sure) waiting in line for her hand in marriage.
I seen one comment that was rude---drama queen---she was not trying to be a drama queen, when your heart is ripped from your chest like i bet hers was, nothing matters no more she wanted to die at that moment because she thought she would not go on no more. I do hope she has support to get thro this and can move on and find that true prince. if i was there I would try to reach out to her and tell her no other person on this planet is worth killing yourself over when it comes to love. for humans can love so easy, its just ashame that we as humans dont have more compasion for feelings of others. but that is why there is hell!
Maybe she is pregnant, we don't know what being a single mom is like in China.
I read that China has the highest suicide rate for women.
Rule 1: Life isn't fair.
Rule 2: Deal with it. Get a friggin' life. The rest of the world could care less.
Awwww 24paws needs a hug :) Dont worry, be happy. ***hug***
If you're going to be insensitive, at least be accurate.
The expression is COULDN'T CARE LESS. To say you COULD CARE LESS implies the exact opposite of what you seem to mean.
You're right -- let me restate correctly: The rest of the world could care less.
Someone must care....lots of comments. Have a little sympathy and a heart 24paws.
Actually 24paws, you speak for yourself, and you are just a sad bitter dweeeeb. Plus if you couldnt care less, you would not keep commenting on this page. You contradict yourself. ;)
When she eventually does marry someone else she will be GLAD someone took her from the arms of death. At such a young age you think it's the end of the world. I have NO doubt she will marry someone else someone worthy of her love and then will have offspring and she will thank the people who saved her so she could enjoy her life. She cannot see it now but I hope she will then.
As for the guy -- what a JERK he is. Hey she should think better now BEFORE the wedding then after if it ends in divorce.
I wish her calm and peace. Life although often very though is too beautiful to waste and believe me I know from whence I speak! We get one shot (I believe) to view and appreciate the grandeur of our planet. Live and enjoy if you can -- it passes in an instant.
A permanent solution to a temporary problem. No one is ever worth dying over. She is just 22, will recover and move forward and think back.."What the hell was I thinking"? I can't imagine how she feels though... just days before her wedding and he marries someone else? That's a real kick in the teeth and a blessing in disguise all at once, which she will realize one day. To the ex-fiance'....every dog has it's day...karma is a b*tch!
When a woman start talking about jumping out of a window or in front of a bus take her seriously, that is a sure sign of depression. How do you break off from such persons without them committing harm to themselves?
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Actually, not necessarily. Maybe she was just really sad because he left her. One doesn't HAVE to be depressed to commit suicide-I think that's an assumption many make. Often times, people make decisions without really thinking about them because they are in a lot of pain. Who wouldn't be hurt and sad after a partner of 4 yrs broke up with them and married someone else days before the wedding?? 3 days ago she may have been the happiest person!
Sometimes, the pain of the moment can overwhelm every logical thought. I had a friend try to end her own life after her daughter died. This women was saved, hopefully she will recover over time. Too may people willing to further scorn the victim in this situation.
Asian women are beautiful even when they are trying to kill themselves. Sorry, I have yellow fever.
I was thinking she looked very beautiful and poetic in these pictures. I'm also very happy she was saved- a jerk ex is not worth dying over.
What's up with the yellow remark. Is that the skin color of asians. Get real dude, your such a racist tard.
I'm not sure his remark was racist....well....racist in a negative way. "Yellow fever" has long been a term used to describe men (such as myself) who prefer the company of Asian women. While I do not use the term personally, I do not think the writer was being degrading or uncomplimentary.....only expressing a personal preference....(I think we all have them....that's what makes life so interesting). Relax.....PC police not needed on this one.
You also used one inappropriate term to attack another. Educate yourself before you continue to embarrass yourself, punisher.
betsy, betsy, betsy, whats the term I'm thinking of, takes one to know one. So before you lower yourself to my level from way up there, please go get laid first. But again, that might be a challenge for you.
what some people won't do for attention...world news..please!!!!!!!!if she wanted to commit suicide she would have immediately jumped instead of sitting there for an hour or so....who sat there and timed that????..and days after her fiance married another woman....wedding dress....all screaming for attention,and fame....and of course the media will bow down to her and give her what she wants.....
this is a waste of time and news space..there are more important things to PUT ON THE NEWS.....
MILLIE J you are an UTTER idiot. If she was only doing it for attention, I doubt that she would have gone ahead and actually jumped, which she did do. The fact that they caught her in time was pure luck. And people DO stall when on the edge of commiting suicide as there are a lot of things going through their heads at that time. You are a waste of page space, you dweeeeb. ;)
Wow, iam, you actually said something that made sense.
Well thank the Lord that her life was saved. That BUM who went off and married someone else should have be kicked in the nuts, what an ass that guy is. Sure do hope he gets his .......maybe his new bride will walk out on his worthless ass after finding out what hes capable of - LOSER!!!
If she had sex with her boyfriend thinking they were going to get married only to be left behind this would explain it. In China when a couple is married it is expected that the girl is a virgin and there have actually been some homicides where the husband killed his new wife when he found it she wasn't a virgin. To a Chinese not being able to get married and have a child is much more serious than in some other countries. If this is the case then for her she really might think her life is over.
Remember that everyone's culture is different and unless you are Chinese and grew up in China then you do not have the right to criticize because you lack the understanding that can only come from living there. Try to see past your own morals and values, the world is a much larger place.
Kelruze --
I sense with you that there might be more to this than is told by this story and these pictures. Happily she is otherwise unharmed.
As to tolerance and understanding of other cultures -- OK, but even that has limitations. Think Sharia Law as one example, and perhaps the ultimate oxymoron "honor killings".
My intention was not to say that I believe that her response was correct or that honor killings or anything of the sort is right. My goal was to remind everyone who was posting comments that what they value is not the samething that other cultures value. I wanted to inspire thought.
itsJustme-2116827's comment below is a good example of the cultural differences. While she was able to move on and please understand I do not mean to belittle that acomplishment, I should imagine it is a very difficult thing to get over, the fact is her culture, lifestyle, and environment are different. If you are taught to value one thing above all else from the moment you are born until adulthood then you will most certainly value that one thing above all else when you reach adulthood. Chinese values are different from our own walks-upright, that was my point.
PS: I also note that her wedding dress appears to be very "western" rather than what I thought would be reflective of traditional Chinese (not that I'm sure I know what that would look like either).
Kelruze -- well said.
Virginity kits??? Tell me more about that....
The ancient Chinese culture still has a long way to go when it comes to fairness, personal freedoms, etc. They are very ambitious though and hopefully will correct these things.
When I was 19, I was engaged to whom I thought was the perfect man. After two years of being together, and one month before we were set to be married, his mother told me that he was cheating on me and had gotten the "other woman" pregnant.
I know this girl's pain. But I never thought of suicide. I look back and am glad that I didn't end up with him. All I can say is...Been there, Done that, Got the Unused wedding dress to prove it! (It's been 12 years and I can't seem to get rid of the damn thing...Nobody wants it!!! hahaha)
Good luck, Miss Li! It will get better!!!
Give the dress to the Salvation Army
Yeah. If you do, you can get a receipt and deduct it from your taxes.
Based on her reaction, it looks like he made the right choice.
and based on your comment, maybe you're related to that @!$%# who couldn't even give her the previlege to know the truth -a YEAR/not just days- before he let her believe that he's going to marry her! @!$%# him!
Walter dweeeeb you are a dweeeb. You sad sad stumpy man. ;)
No walter, you're not wrong- you're just an @s$hole!!